Confession #3 - Why quantity matters?

I cannot give you my number of sexual partners as I stopped counting (although I think I have a rough idea of a two-digit number in mind) but what I have learnt from trying myself with several men is that experience makes you stronger to say yes or no.

I was talking to a male friend who has slept with about 1,000 women and the information that I retained was that 20-30% of his conquests were good and the rest was terrible. And it is the same for women. Does it still worth accumulating the number yet? I think so.

The younger me was frustrated and tired of facking and pretending I was happy with my boyfriends in the bedroom but I was not as I could not orgasm. One day, I had enough and went to online dating to meet more men and my sex life reached better results. I was able to discover more skilled men, different sizes and different emotions. As I went throughout, I got more knowledgeable, my body and mind were responding otherwise and most importantly, I was in control and was holding the power of saying yes, no, next or 'I want to see you again'. I can confirm that the majority was not great and that a few stand out - very often men with a large list of sexual encounters. But as of today, it still works in my favour to be the one I want to be: a happy freely woman who lives her sexual life in her own terms. A part of me is seeking a partner in crime to explore the world and share amazing intimate moments and until I find this person, I leave my body having these heavenly orgasmic moments. Some people would say that a long-lasting relationship starts with a minded connection but I find that finding the right sexual partner is a better base to scale up to a greater relationship.

I think that women who marry early or who hold their virginity for their husband miss out a lot. The female orgasm is still taboo and I am sure a lot of them are unhappy in their sexual life purely because they are not with the right person. Sex compatibility is almost a rare find and one of the solutions is to try and experience yourself with several people. You could be lucky and your second could be the right one but my advice is to never blind your eyes or say yes to something that does not appeal to you in the fear of losing them or worse to please your other half. You will end up miserable and maybe you will start cheating to satisfy a growing hidden need for better sex. My experience has taught me that there is always other options out there if I am unhappy in the bedroom with someone.

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